Severing Ties – When is it Time to Cut the Cord

No matter what you want to call it, there is no denying the lessons we learn from these people. However, the question is, how long are they meant to be in your life? Are they destined to be intertwined with you for the rest of your life? Or, when that connection has served its purpose, are we not meant to learn how to let them go? Today we are going to get down into the nitty-gritty details of soul contracts, and how to recognize when the time is right to set those people free. Even if that’s not what they want. After all, it’s all a part of the life we are living. 

What Are Soul Contracts?

We have spoken about soul contracts many times before. But, before we carry on, let’s go through them once again. Just in case someone needs a refresher. In a nutshell, soul contracts are the connections and agreements we make with other souls before we reincarnate into this life. This meeting comprises of your soul family, which is not the same as your physical family you were born to Your soul family can be your physical family, as well as your best friends, enemies, school teachers, and even your work colleagues. You all get together, along with your spirit guides to discuss every single experience you will each have throughout your lives. That’s right, every single decision you make, and outcome that you reach is predestined by yourself. You make agreements with your soul family to help you along the way. Each interaction with people you meet in this life are agreement you make as per your soul contract. 

These predestined agreements are intended to facilitate our growth, learning, and spiritual evolution during our time on Earth. Soul contracts are not limited to romantic relationships; they can include relationships with family members, friends, mentors, or even people who play adversarial roles in our lives. The purpose of these soul contracts is to provide us with opportunities for growth, healing, and self-awareness. Some of them can be heart-warming and fruitful, like an insightful or nurturing friendship. Those friends can help lead you to make decisions that will enable you to fulfill your potential. The same can be said for romantic connections. 

Some of the most important life lessons we have come from people that we do not like. But, it doesn’t mean you did not like them from the start. Maybe you had a best friend who hurt you at some point. Or maybe an ex-lover who betrayed your trust. As we said, every single interaction is there to teach you a lesson, whether it is good or bad. The key here is to understand that every lesson is a good lesson because it leads you to understand something new about yourself. 

When Is It Time to Cut the Cord?

More often than not, there is always a time when one needs to consider severing the energetic tie that bonds you to someone, in terms of love and friendships. Some people manage to stay together for a lifetime without having to go through this. They are fortunate indeed. But, it also means they have put in the work to facilitate a healthy relationship. Maybe your best friend pointed out something she didn’t like so much, and you were able to recognize your part to play in it. Together you were able to overcome that hardship in a healthy manner. 

Many times, relationships start to fall apart. Maybe it is you who is blind to your sabotaging actions, but if you’re reading this, it’s likely that you have realized you need to take a step back from your friend or lover. It can be a heavy decision to make, and not one to be made lightly. A lot of thought should go into it, and you should also consider talking to the person to see if they are willing to adjust their behavior in a way that suits you both. However, how does one know when it is time to cut the cord? We have some pointers that will help you identify whether the relationship is no longer serving you Hopefully this helps. 

1. Is the Relationship Toxic?

The dynamics between two people can seriously highlight how beneficial a relationship is, or not.  A good time to consider severing ties with someone is if the relationship is toxic. Are you able to have deep and meaningful conversations with the person without them shutting down?  Will they listen to the issues you have without getting defensive and playing the blame game by shifting it all onto you? 

2. Are They Holding You Back?

The ideal relationship is with someone who wants to see you flourish. However, there are some people who struggle to see other people succeed because it triggers feelings of failure or rejection within them. This might not be as severe in your case, but you must consider whether they are giving you the space to grow. Or, are you holding yourself back and preventing yourself from reaching your potential in order to save their shame? Soul contracts are meant to be catalysts for growth, and when growth is stifled, it’s time to reconsider the connection’s role in your life. 

3. Do they Drain You of Energy?

Pay attention to your energy. If you consistently feel drained, anxious, or uncomfortable in the presence of the other person, it could indicate an energetic misalignment, suggesting that the soul contract’s purpose has been fulfilled. This will come intuitively. If you hadn’t noticed this before, there is a chance you were ignoring the signs because you weren’t ready to let them go yet. Remember this is a part of the life we chose here on Earth, and the other person will also gain personal growth from this experience.

4. Differing Life Paths

This one is tricky because we fall in love with people for one thing, and then they change as they develop and that thing we loved in the first place is no more. Often relationships thrive because you share the same life goals. But, as we go through each experience in life, it is not uncommon to grow apart due to significant shifts in their life paths, interests, or values. While this is a natural part of life, it may signal that the soul contract has served its purpose, and it is time to part ways amicably. 

Deciding whether or not to let someone go is a difficult task to take on. Sometimes the lines between healthy and toxic are blurred. If you have had some questions regarding a certain someone in your life, try this quiz. It might illuminate the path for you.